Monday, December 14, 2015

I know you're not supposed to wish for time to speed up...

I am so ready for a change. If I were in a normal situation, I would have been in a new job by now. I need something different. I feel undervalued. I talked to my boss about it and she agreed, but basically did nothing to support me. There are a lot of empty promises of support.

We went to the UVA dinner last night and we loved it. Gus loved his interview today, too. Charlottesville is a great city and I would love to live there. In 3 months we will know. I just need to make the most of things for now, but it's getting difficult.

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

I used to take such fulfillment from my job. Now it's such a small part of who I am.

Thursday, November 5, 2015

Gus is on his way to Philly right now, for his first interview.

I like Philadelphia. I used to hate it. When we were there in May for his step 2 exam, I really liked it. I don't think he's super interested in Temple, but this will be a really important experience for him.

Monday, October 19, 2015

The best part about Gus applying for residency is being able to fantasize about starting new somewhere else. That would make it so much easier, especially on the days that I am really over my job. What better excuse to find a new job? Right now, I'm trapped. I can't do anything because we might move in 6 months. It's not a good idea. But who knows what I could find in another city, in a state that values the profession, maybe?

Saturday, October 17, 2015

8 interviews lined up. Still waiting to hear from many (22? 23?). My husband wants to move to Alabama. I don't know how I feel about that.

Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Gus applied for residency programs today. He is applying to 30 programs, will probably interview at about 10. Most of the programs are regional, in the mid-Atlantic. Some are farther north or farther south. A few are out in the pacific northwest or Midwest. It is stressful, but a difficult stress to explain. It's actually really exciting. It's going to be fascinating to see who is interested in meeting him. It's also nerve wracking to think that this time next year, at the least our lives will be very different and we could even be living somewhere across the country. I try to talk to people about it, but I don't think anyone really understands. All they care about is the moving part. I care about the moving part, too, but it's more complicated than that.

This is one of those situations where it's not even worth getting too worked up about anything because you really just have to take it as it comes.

Monday, August 3, 2015

I must remember

http://www.kbaer.com/2015/07/02/guest-post-a-letter-to-moms-whose-partners-works-long-hours/
Gus has been putting together his list of residency programs he will be applying for. Most of them are regional-- VA, MD, PA, NC. There are a few wildcards thrown in like Mayo and Yale. We're trying to have fun with it. We are adding some places to the list because we just want to visit the cities. I can't believe it's only August because with all of the planning and discussion it feels like it has to be October already. Nope. Still hot, sticky August in the south.

Monday, July 6, 2015

3 Years Later

I have not updated this in 3 years. I'm not sure what happened. When I started this, we had just moved from Baltimore where we had been living for 3 years and I was ready to get out and start anew.

Oddly enough, we are approaching a similar crossroads with different feelings. We have been in Richmond for 3 years. During this time we have gotten married, I have worked in the same job that I love (most days), I have fallen deeply in love with Richmond. We have been lucky to make friends here and put down roots. G has finished 3 years of med school; the difficult years. He wants to do residency in internal medicine... is it clear where I'm going with this?

Yes, 3 years later we are back in the same position. Where will we be this time next year? Will we stay in Richmond or will G get a residency position somewhere else? We have mixed feelings. We both love Richmond and staying here would be so much easier than moving, starting new lives, finding a neighborhood we like, establishing new roots... The thing is, it's only up to us a little bit. And what if he finds a program that he likes more? G will start applying to programs in September. He'll interview in the winter and hopefully I can go with him to the cities we do not know. Then in March, we'll find out. March is when we find out our fate.